Blog

Situation: a child throws a temper tantrum. We have two options – get triggered or not.

During my emotional processing this morning, I came up with the emotion of defensiveness. Except, I wasn’t feeling particularly defensive about anything.

Four years ago, I started a morning ritual that greatly improved the quality of my day. I wrote before that separating ‘getting up in the morning’ from ‘getting ready for work’ significantly increased my happiness level. I now naturally get up early, not to squeeze more productivity out of the day but rather to get myself into a peaceful state to face whatever the day brings.

Dealing with your emotions is like dealing with a two-year-old. Logic won’t get you very far. You need to bring out your wise and loving inner parent. Easier said than done, given that no one had any good role models, your parents neither.

Remember drawing paint-by-numbers pictures as a kid? A similar process helps to go from being stuck to moving forward again.

Let’s talk about your feelings, shall we – said no man ever. When you want to make a change that you know is in your best interest but you feel resistance, it is a clue that you have some emotional reaction to the change you want to make. What trips us up is that most of us can’t pinpoint exactly what it is.

This morning I didn’t know what to write about. I noticed all kinds of objections and reasons why my commitment to writing was a bad idea and why I should give up. Without fail, every time I want to make a change, I come up against this wall of my inner resistance.

I used to not share my thoughts because I knew I didn’t have a complete picture of any specific topic…

What if your perspective is the missing puzzle piece that takes us from 2D to 3D on a specific topic?

If we want to evolve as a society, we need to stop looking for the ‘right’ answers. Instead, we need to start contributing our perspectives and become curious about others’ views to understand the bigger picture.

I don’t thrive in a 9 to 5 corporate environment. Like everyone else, I have bills to pay, so I felt stuck in this constant cycle of burnout and recovery. About 4 years ago, I made a small change that shifted things for me significantly.

Last week I shared how I use walking to clear my mind. However, getting out the door and walking did not come naturally to me. After many years of failed attempts, I finally figured out what worked for me.